With 2018 right around the corner, many of us habitually resort to making New Year’s Resolutions. However why do we need to wait until late December to admit to ourselves that we need to make so many changes to our lives and then only commit to these adjustments on the 1st January? (Is it because we become so overly consumed by guilt after a Christmas week full of indulging and excess?)
This year, I won’t be making New Year’s Resolutions. Don’t get me wrong – I’m not adverse to setting myself small goals to motivate self-improvement. I just don’t like the concept of forcing myself to achieve a bulk-load of unattainable changes in one go. I don’t like the immense pressure that occurs every January when everyone is desperate to lose weight so gyms become overcrowded and diet culture thrives. Health and fitness are certainly valuable ambitions but why should we put off these goals until an arbitrary date we’ve collectively decided is resolution time.
Personally, I fear that by making any big resolutions for 2018, I could potentially be setting myself up to fail which could result in a relapse in my recovery. I really don’t need any further sort of pressure to fix myself. I am not broken. I am ill and that is okay. However I will be continuing my healing process and strive to achieve smaller (but by no less than important) goals as I have been doing over the last 8 months of recovery.
Please don’t intend to “lose” something (like weight), make 2018 a year for you to gain and improve. Instead of making New Year’s Resolutions on 1st January, I will set a time for my family to talk about the last year (the highlights, the achievements, the lessons learnt) and the upcoming one – milestones we’re excited about and positive changes we’d like to see. I truly believe that upon leaving that conversation, we will all feel more positive, excited, hopeful and grateful. Isn’t that how we all want to feel entering 2018?
Slightly Improved Me for 2018
This year, I hope to:
- Continue self-care
- Continue self-love
- Practice gratitude
- Be more empathetic
- Start DBT therapy
- Write more
- Laugh more
- Focus on the Present
- Keep up with my yoga practice
Happy New Year!
Upon reflecting on the last year, and focusing on plans for the upcoming year, the practice of mindfulness can be lost. Remember that it is the NOW, the present, the today that you must embrace. I hope that you all have a bright and beautiful new year. It’s ok if you don’t because life isn’t perfect and that’s fine. But we all have what it takes to thrive despite whatever life throws at us! Stay safe!